Two elegant elven women sit closely together on a tree branch — AI video by @faerierealm

faerierealm

If you don't find men attractive, that's definitely more like my partner than me. But I suppose that's what makes me bi, as I find both genders attractive, at least if they're in good shape and are good people. It makes sense that trans women would be gentle, because they are basically women born into men's bodies, so when they transition back to being women, it makes sense that they're gentle. Like you, I wonder if a trans man (a man born into a woman's body who then transitions back to being a man) would be rougher because his personality is that of a man... hmm, very interesting!

faerierealm

Exquisite ecstasy is great! But more to my point (and purely from a literary, ahem, research angle), wouldn't you agree that women in WLW relationships are less likely to engage in headboard-banging sex? I admit I've only had one female partner, but she doesn't like penetration at all, and even though I'm fine being penetrated, even I don't care for aggressive thrusting. But are we just outliers? Are there WLW couples who engage in rough sex? Now I feel like I have to go research this haha.

faerierealm

Just saw your other message (I think you replied to yourself so I didn't get a notification haha). If you have no interest in men, you're similar to my partner, although it's interesting that you fantasize about 'that kind of' sex, by which I presume you mean the rougher love-making men are prone to deliver. Granted, they're just a prop in your fantasies, but it's still interesting. I will indeed go off and research this, so our writing is better informed about all personalities, not just our own...

JustAsh

Not to worry you don't offend me. It's interesting that I have NO interest in men IRL but I do have persistent fantasies about that kind of sex. Although I must admit that men in such fantasies are more like a prop (like a stripper pole even) and not an object of desire. The whole emphasis for me is BEING the object of someone's desires and being able to abandon myself to that. Probably TMI shared there but it's late and I ramble when it's late.

JustAsh

Yes I probably did respond to myself unfortunately. LOL The reality of men for me is that they aren't attractive enough (looks, shape, smell) and they are too rough. The fantasy of the experience is different. And interestingly I learned when dating a trans woman in the past that they are COMPLETELY different from an experience with a man. I've never been with a trans man however so it makes me wonder what that experience would be like.

JustAsh

Yeah I have a deep affection for the characters I've created, not because of sex but because they are ideal partners for each other. All that love, devotion and affection, the support and understanding. It's intoxicating. And this video clip it's got that feeling. It's similar to the kissing video I did last week for me. That same feeling of love and devotion and adoration and affection is here in this scene.

faerierealm

Yes, that's exactly what I'm talking about! And that's a great way to put it: "Even when they are trying to be gentle they are rougher." Also, don't sweat the whole 'gold star' thing. Even my partner, who has zero interest in guys, only figured that out by having extremely disappointing experiences with guys when she was younger and still trying to be 'normal.'

faerierealm

Yes, agreed. And especially if you're writing WLW romances, the whole headboard-banging kind of sex is harder to justify. I mean, not to turn this convo NSFW, but having dated men when I was younger, I obviously don't mind a good, slow penetration, but I also don't miss the pounding that some of my boyfriends tended to deliver haha.

JustAsh

It is as Mr Spock would say, "fascinating". I think there are other aspects of it as well. For instance now that I'm older the emotional intimacy and romantic touch that isn't full out explicit sex has become far more important to me. At least I think it's age related, LOL

faerierealm

Yes, your dreamy kiss as snow is falling--I remember it well! And yes, that kind of emotional connection is far more intoxicating than rocking-the-mattress, headboard-banging sex (although the men will likely disagree haha). But now, I'm going to sign off as Gael wants to have a late snack. Goodnight! 🌙