Based on true events
By SUGA
Hi, you all know me. By September 23, 2026 I'll complete 32 years of age. I was married on November 12, 2020 after completing 26 years of age. From that night, my wife used to sleep by placing 2 big teddy bears in between us. The next day while having a conversation with her, I casually asked her about babies. She shouted at me by saying, "Is that the only thing in life ?". I was confused of her activities and asked myself, "What wrong did I do ? Why does she hate me so badly ?". When I was about to go to the shop I asked her "I'm going to the shop. Do you need anything ?". She replied, "I want divorce, Will you give me ?". I was sad and didn't reply. After few minutes she gave me a list of things to buy. She has lots of boys and girls friendship and call them and chat happily regularly. But to me, when we are alone, she just scolds me all the time and in front of others she'll act so kind that she's the best wife. To her friends, she'll say that before marriage she was so happy and free but, after marriage she feels like she lost her life. She'll talk loud that I have to hear all these things. 3rd day after my marriage she asked me, "Have you loved anyone ?". I replied, "No. Have you loved ?". She replied, "YES". She told her full story of how her love story started and ended on the same bridge. She also explained how her family tortured her by words and her mom hitting her and her dad not speaking for few months after knowing her love story. She thought her elder brother would help. Her brother went to her lover's house and talked to him. Her lover said to wait for 2 years and after getting a good job he'll marry her. But her brother refused and said "We can't wait for 2 years. We're going to search for a bridegroom". Our family didn't get any dowry from her family. Our only expectation was that the woman should be good and kind to run a happy family. 10 years before my mom had an intestinal surgery to remove a huge cancer part. My dad recovered from stroke. I'm the only son. My parents crossed 65 years of age. My mom retired as a school Principal and earned a lot. She made me lazy by giving some of her properties. I'm not ambitious. I just work to survive (shelter, clothes, food) and not get any money from her. My father was abusive to us till 2020 and lost more of my mom's properties due to his drinking habits. My parents took care of my wife like their own daughter. She called them mom and dad. I believed that if I did everything she asked, someday I might erase her lover from her memory and we might start a healthy relationship. The same month she asked me to take to her lover once and I did it on November 29, 2020. When I stopped the bike, she ran towards him publicly and started crying loudly. Some of them waiting for the bus were watching. He also invited me and her for his brother's wedding the next month. I replied "That's impossible because we are going on a long trip to our another home that's nearly 500 kms. After reaching our current home, that was the 1st time she hugged me and said, "thanks". I said "If you want, you can go live with him. I'll marry someone who accepts me". She replied, "He won't accept me now. Please give me 2 years time. After his marriage, we'll start a new life". I agreed and didn't share to anyone by thinking that maybe these are normal and we should solve husband and wife problems within ourselves. During winter she gets joint and hip pain due to low calcium and disc problem. I used to massage her legs. If we take her to the hospital and buy expensive medicines, she won't eat. She''l only eat medicines, bought by her parents. We used to take her and her family to tour and buy them many things. She asked me to take her to the place where her lover and she used to have snacks and chat and I did. She used to make me say stories like how her lover said her stories through phone and made her sleep. When we were alone at home, she starts crying for no reasons. If I touch her shoulder and ask her kindly, "Why are you crying ?". She'll push my hands off and say "Nothing". In a confusion I'll sit beside her. In few minutes she'll ask "Why are you just sitting like a stone ? Now in your place if my lover was there, he would not be sitting like this instead, he'll beg for me to not cry and he'll cry too. I like watching men cry. Always I like creating problems and he begs me while crying. When I fight with you and be alone, I'll be starring at my lover's messages and think it would be better if I married him. He broke up with me and got cheated by another woman and again returned after we were engaged before 1 and a half years of marriage. I removed the ring you gave me after our engagement and also prayed to God to stop this marriage. Why didn't you ask dowry ? With that reason at least my father would have stopped the wedding. I hate this forced marriage. I want to create a big problem and stay life long in my home without marriage." Saying this she'll start hitting herself and pull her hair. I usually don't have the habit of crying because of my tragic past from childhood. I had no other choice than to act naturally like crying. She then stopped crying and asked sorry. Me too would ask sorry. Then to others she'll say that "We both had a fight and I forgave him just because he begged me by touching my feet." She doesn't respect me and so her younger relatives also don't respect me. But I'll play with everyone. One day she asked me to again take her to her lover to return his belongings like bus tickets, greeting cards, Dairy milk silk papers, etc. I didn't reply and changed the topic. 1st 2 years she blackmailed me and made her to stay in her home saying "I want to go my home. You should come and stay with me too then only my parents will allow me to stay. If you don't come with me, I'll create a big fight and stay in my home and will never return to you again." I did as she said. On Valentines' day I gave her dairy milk silk chocolate. She ate and burnt the paper. I asked her "Aren't you not keeping the paper safe ?". She replied, "These things does not happen by saying. It happens only if we have the feelings". On February 19, 2021 while she started fighting with me by comparing me to her lover she said, "Because of you only I'm not able to live with my lover..." I was so hurt and too a shaving blade and cut my left wrist to commit suicide. My blood started pouring out. In few minutes I was shocked thinking of my parents that who will take care of them ? and asked God forgiveness and pleaded to not let me die. She cried on seeing my blood and promised that she'll never compare me to her lover. She sprayed on my blood and my bleeding stopped. Next day morning she scolded me, "Why are you commiting suicide in my home. Are you planning to send my parents to jail? Next time commit suicide in your home." Till my wounds healed, I wore full hand tea shirts. She brain washed my mom to see the house that is 500 kms far away from our current home. She also used to say sadly, "You all have properties in your names but, I'm poor and have nothing". When my mom was thinking where to buy land next, my wife and her mother brain washed my mom saying. "If you buy lands here (my wife's birth place), ot costs very less." My mom thought that she can't stay with me forever and her family will be more supportive to me. My mother borrowed all kinds of loans and with the money that she already has, she gave some amount to me and my wife and said to transfer those to the land owner from our bank accounts. In registeration office I was shocked when my mother said to add my name and her name for buying that land, I was shocked. I couldn't say frankly about my wife to her in public about she'll still having her lover in her heart, skipped kids planning, no sex... From October 2021 till my mother and I started spending money for her to study Ph.D Chemistry. Besides I bought her everything she asked that she won't allow me to have any money in the end of each months. She said to start a Recurring Deposit in her name in the post office. Since she didn't have a PAN card, I started in my name. My mother started a Recurring Deposit in her name in a private bank. In 2 years I faced a lot of tortures from her and on October-02-2022 I couldn't control her tortures and said all the truth to my mom. She was so upset and said, "I thought you both are living happily and I bought a land in both of your names in her birth place. I gave you (my wife) my number before marriage, Why didn't you call and inform me that you are not interested in the marriage ? Are you both willing to continue living happily or do you both need divorce ?" We replied, "We don't need divorce". After that slowly she started creating unnecessary problems whenever she comes and stays in our home. She'll usually stay in her home from the beginning and come to our home like a tour vacation for 1 or 2 days. In 2 years I stopped staying with her in her home because, before her brother's marriage her birth house was small with ground floor containing 2 rooms, 2 bathrooms, a hall and a kitchen. Whenever she starts a fight, she lays down on the dirty floor by leaving me on the bed. During her brother's marriage, her birth house was extended by 1st floor with 2 rooms and a hall. After her brother's marriage whenever she fights, she sleeps in her brother's room (when her brother goes to work faraway) leaving me alone. As my wife stayed in her birth house even after her brother's marriage, she didn't even allow her step-sister to live peacefully in that house. Within their 6 moths of marriage, she joined with her mom and made a big fight by going to her brother's place and fighting with her brother and his wife. Till now my wife's brother and his wife is not living together. My mom thought that at least if we build a house in my wife's hometown, my wife will stop going to her home unnecessarily and many fights can be stopped. Again my mom took many loans and built a house in my name and my wife's name. After we started living there, my family's lives turned upside down. My wife's behaviour changed completely like dominating. She stopped talking and cooking for my mother. Every sunday she'll take my scooty and go to her home and return in the evening. When there are festivals like easter, christmas,.. few days before she'll create a fight or acting like ill and then call her father and someone else for witness like spreading fake news that we are torturing her and she'll stay in her home for a month and return back. I talk to her first and then she'll slowly speak and get her next fees for Ph.D Chemistry. She only cooks properly when she needs anything from me. Mostly I'll starve and my weight nearly decreased to 50 kg. She''l go whenever she wants to her home and eat plenty. I never stopped buying her dress, foods, plants, gifts, jewels, etc.. even if I had very low amount. I borrowed money and did everything she asked. On November 2023, she frankly told me that she hate having sex with me because she still thinks of her lover and asked me if there is any other easy method to give birth. I asked to a Doctor in the hospital she suggested and the Doctor said that IUI can be done. In few days she became pregnant. She sold some of her jewels and bought a marriage necklace for her. She removed the necklace that I put on her neck during marriage and threw it on the bed. She wore her new necklace. In few days the baby was stuck in her tube and was aborted and removed on January 2024. For a week I stayed with her in the hospital and did all the help by paying the bills, buying her what all she asked, bringing her mother and grandmother to the hospital and taking home again. After discharge my father took her in the car and dropped her in her birth house. She stayed there for a month and came back and started going to the college. Again on May-14-2024 she created a big fight scene to go stay in her home for a month. She said me to marry someone else and call her for my wedding. In the middle of the fight she pushed my mother. She cursed us saying that my mom will die soon and I'll die too as a orphan. Her mom was secretly recording the fight in her phone. If they release that video everyone will know the truth about their mad daughter's truth and behaviour. She came back after a month. As usual I spoke first. In few days she asked for college fees and I gave. In few days whenever she fought with me, she'll search for my mother and fight with her too and throw the jewel loan receipts and say, "Recover all these jewels and I'll hand over the proprty that you gave". Once I found that her mother advised her to separate my mom from me so that my wife can have the full control on me. Within August 2024, my mom recovered all her jewels and also gave the full Recurring Deposit amount to my wife. Even if my mom is sick, my wife will not cook anything for her. She did what all she could to separate my mom from me. In few days my mom started experiencing strange symptoms - her face and legs started swelling with skin disease. Doctors advised to avoid meat, fish, egg and milk. Then it was under control. Whenever I visit my or her relatives, they ask her "Why is he thin ? Don't you give him food ? Is he suffering from any disease ?" She'll reply, "Now only he looks so young. If he grows fat, he'll look like an old uncle." In private she'll scold me for these kind of incidents. Once I noticed her holding a tiny medicine like bottle in the kitchen. I didn't ask her anything but she said that it was holy salt from a church given by her mom and if we mix it with food, in 3 months a baby will be formed in her stomach. I didn't interfere in her silly beliefs and just ignored to read what was that actually. On November, 2024 she got her final year fees from me. She completed her PhD Chemistry on December 2024. On December, 17, 2024 she created a fight as usual. First she fought with me. She also ordered me to leave my parents and go with her very far from home. I replied, "I'm the only son to my parents. My mother suffered from Cancer and my father from stroke. They crossed 65 years of age. If you want me to leave them and starve them to death, it is better to handle the property to them and then go wherever you want." She then went to my mom's room who was already sick and taking rest. She started to shout loudly at my mom without even thinking that there are other houses nearby. For the first time my mom scolded her. I started to record the fight as I remembered my wife's mom recorded on May 14, 2024. My wife didn't allow me to record. She plucked my phone and then I plucked my phone from her and pushed her. She landed on the sofa and started checking if there were and marks to create a scene like I'm torturing her. But there were no marks. She went upstairs and shut the door. I went and pushed the door and the latch broke. She took her shawl and was pretending like she's going to hang on the fan. I remembered her words that she said on February 19, 2021 and said the same "If you want to die, go die in your home". She then started crushing her own neck with her hands and made nail marks of her own. She then called her mom and said, "He hit me. Come and take me home. If we wants, let him come alone with me. In the house where mother and son is there, I won't live there. If he doesn't come, I don't need him." I started recording their conversation. Again she received a call. Then she packed her things (what all I bought her including laptop) and ran to the road and started crying in the public. Then her father arrived and took her to his home. From there she started calling to my father and relatives and said that I hit her and threw her out of the house and that she'll give a complaint to the police. In a few days December 31, 2024 we went and met an advocate in that area (her relation). That advocate said that her mom discussed the problem with lies, the previous day. After new year, in front of the lawyer, we confessed everything. The advocate pretending to be supporting us. That was the first experience for us regarding case. He made us scared saying "If a woman complains, they'll put you in jail. Laws are in their favor..." We believed him and spent a lot of money for no use. My wife agreed that she'll give the property to me and asked for a week to think by staying in her home. Then I left her in her home. On January 6, 2025 she came and started staying with me by rolling my bedsheet between us. On January 11, 2025 I said to her "One week passed. Whatever you have decided, we'll say to the advocate and end this problem." She refused and started calling her brother for the next fight. Her brother, father and two members came to beat me and my father. I secretly recorded the events. No one hit us. They all disgraced and insulted us in the roadside while all the vehicles and neighbours were watching. Again she took what all she wanted including my mom's sarees and some of my money from the house and went. The advocate got money from us saying that we shall file a case against her in the court and he did nothing for three months. On March 9, 2025 my wife and her parents went to that house where no one was there and broke two locks and the back door and stole what all they want. Now that house which they didn't spend a single money is under their control. That house is just 4 kms away from her parents house but, 30 kms away from my current house. Her friends and relations are in that area. On March 10, 2025 my wife filed a fake complaint against my whole family and my aunt (totally 4 members). The police investigated and found out the truth that my mom spent the full money and bought land and house in my name and my wife's name. But they can't do anything. If my mom bought the property in her name and then gave it to us, it could have been easy for my mom to recover it. Now, only if my wife decides she can give but she won't, as she's greedy for my mom's property. For all these years she used us and she didn't think of living with me the whole life. Now she's saying she needs me because, if she says she doesn't want to live with me then she can't claim money and property from me. The police sent us to the counselling centre for 2 days. I told my decision, "The full property was bought with my mom's money and there is a lot of loans. If she handles the property to my mother, I will go wherever she takes me even if it is a risk as she already called some persons to hit me." She got up and said, "It took 4 years to forget my lover. I don't know how long will it take to forget this guy (me). Here after I won't file any case." Then she went to the Women police station and wrote many things including "don't take any action for now". For a year she worked in a school, went to tour, bought a scooty, received the Ph.D doctor title... On December 31, 2025 her dad sent 2 politicians to my house. They heard all the stories from me. They said to me, "She has spoiled your life. She is living a well settled happy life. Still you are thinking of her and spoiling your life. You are getting old. You will still get a good wife." I asked "What is her decision ?" They replied "She didn't say." They gave their number and said "when you decide, call us and let us know". They left. On May 7, 2026 I received an advocate notice from her side and was terribly shocked and sad. She added many fake details saying we asked them still more jewels and money and also mentioned that in 10 days if I don't go and live with her, severe action would be taken against me. For a week I was totally hurt again. I stopped spending time in Ai websites. In few days I started receiving mails from NC website regarding comments. Then I felt that my new family might miss me and returned to NC and BP. Then we went to an advocate and told the whole story. He noted down the important points and sent a reply notice. From her side, still there is no reply. Now a days many women are misusing the law and trying to steal how much they can from their husband and starting to live with someone they loved before. Many men here are committing suicide in these cases. Is true love old fashioned ? If she was forced to marry me by her parents, she could have at least sent a message to my mom (my mom gave her number before my marriage). Still if it was hard for her to forget her lover, she could have left me in the beginning itself, instead of using my whole family and made my whole family to go to the police station. I tried as much as I can and shortened my story. I've written nearly 100 pages of the incidents that have happened in these 7 years (2019 to 2026). It was so hard for me to write. Thinking of those incidents gave me headache, eye irritation, unconciousness, sad.. Then I'll close and sleep to recover. Whenever I try to end my life I mainly think "My parents have done many things that I haven't even asked them. I should at least live till they are in this Earth. Within that if I get a better life, let it be so."
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