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Stressed seated woman holds her head at a work desk — AI art by @faerierealm

@faerierealm · 7/31/2026

💸 Arguing About Money 💸 Okay @justrob, this one's for you: A domestic squabble. And what do WLWers fight about? The same things MLWers fight about, the top item being... MONEY! In our case, it's an interesting dynamic: Because I make so much more than my partner (thanks to my STEM degree and tech salary), I sometimes incorrectly believe I should be able to spend as I please. Most surveys reveal that money is the top cause of relationship strife, and that's certainly true of us. But you know what? After 20+ years of money fights, I'm actually GLAD my partner held the line and kept me from spending too freely, because if not, we wouldn't be able to quit our jobs and leave the country to get away from the Orange Tyrant. So yes, WLW relationships (like MLW and other types of relationships) are not all kisses and hugs. The important thing is to respect your partner, find a compromise you can both live with, and then forgive and forget (at least until the next fight haha). ❤️ Model: GPT Image 1.5 Low Prompt: A frustrated brunette woman wearing glasses and office clothes sits at a home office desk lit only by a single desk lamp. The brunette is frowning and trying not to get mad, one hand on her forehead, the other hand clenched on the desk's surface. A beautiful blonde woman, wearing blue jeans and a midriff-baring white top with spaghetti straps, stands behind the blonde, her mouth open as if mid-yell, gesticulating at the brunette as if trying to make a point about something. On the wall behind them is a watercolor painting of the two women in which they are smiling. There are some green house plants on the desk and a large green fern in the corner.

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JustAsh

I think what she meant was that I was wise to all the tricks she used on men. I didn't easily fall for the manipulation or the pouting and trying to coerce me wit sex wasn't going to happen. The only thing she found that really worked was finding the nastiest things she could think of to say about the things she knew I was insecure about or gaslighting me and rather than resulting in a win for her it just resulted in escalation and retaliation. It was pretty unhealthy to be honest. But I never will forget her saying that after a fight like that one night. Never been an LTR with a man and if I've lost a fight to one it was just because the man basically ignored what I said and did what he wanted to regardless. That wouldn't work in an LTR.

CaylaCatz

It's very good advice. Especially the compromise and forget. I think we people hold onto old grievances by remembering even if they said they forgive, they build up so forgetting can be important -- as long as it's not an excuse to not change and continue to do things you know drives your partner up the wall. I have a problem with the forget part so I'm great int he honeymoon stage but then I'm not so good.

faerierealm

Ah okay, I gotcha. And yeah, that's not healthy at all. Every couple argues, but there are ways to make your point without belittling your partner or attacking their insecurities. When Gael complains about my spending, she never says I'm a horrible person or don't care about her, and I never say "I should have married a guy" or something like that. And yeah, just ignoring your partner also doesn't work in an LTR. The key really is compromise!

JustAsh

I'd actually never thought about it before an ex GF told me that one night after a fight. She compared arguing with men to shooting fish in a bucket by comparison. LOL And BTW yes money is very often a major cause of couple fights. My other favorites are jealousy/paranoia and whose doing what chores.

faerierealm

That's good to hear, Magnus! Now that you mention it, we also argue less the older we get. Perhaps that's a sign of us aligning slowly over time as a result of repeated compromises, or maybe we're just mellowing in our old age haha.

faerierealm

Oh yes, absolutely agree! Better to stay single than suffer in a toxic relationship. (Studies show that straight women are opting to stay single more and more lately, so I would assume that applies to WLWers as well.)

JustAsh

No it's definitely not healthy at all, I recognize that now. Green flag people and relationships aren't easy to find though. However it's better to stay single than to settle for anything less IMO.

base451121

I don't think so, dear Emily; life is tough in every aspect, whether one is queer or straight—it makes no difference. But it’s a good thing that it is that way!!!

Unleashed

Okay, first of all, the "Orange Tyrant" comment made me laugh out loud. Secondly, relationships aren't all kisses and hugs? Crap, we've been doing it wrong!?

suga2309

Wise words with a heartfelt glow. 💖✨ Love grows where respect can flow. 🤝🌸 Compromise helps futures bloom. 🌱💰 Cheers to a love that outshines gloom! 😊🌈