The Case for Erotica - Part 4 (Self-Love Revisited)

Self-Love Visual Aids for Women and Men A Personal Health and Wellness Blog by Faerie Realm (Mostly by Emily, the Girl-Nerd Half of Faerie Realm) . . . For those who didn't read my initial blog in this series, here's the TLDR: My primary use case for AI art is to create spicy images to counteract the libido drops I experienced upon entering perimenopause. (Somewhat ironically, my partner's libido remained largely unchanged despite her being older and hitting menopause before me.) Here's a link to that initial blog for those wanting more than a TLDR: https://budgetpixel.com/blog/the-case-for-erotica-part-1-relationship-benefits I also wrote a follow-up blog focused on self-love. If you haven't seen that one yet, you may want to start there and then return here, as that blog lays out the MANY health benefits associated with self-love. Here's a link to that blog, which contains images such as the one below: https://budgetpixel.com/blog/the-case-for-erotica-part-2-self-love And yes, I'm using self-love as a euphemism for masturbation. Many people—and women especially—find the term embarrassing, which is unfortunate because self-love is an important part of self-care. And this is especially true for men, as I'll explain shortly. Whereas our earlier self-love blog presented images of a woman as she brought herself to climax in a bathtub, this blog presents multiple different women outside of the bath, and not always at the moment of climax. Because self-love is also about the journey. This blog won't repeat most of the health information presented before. Instead, it serves primarily as a gallery of visual aids to help women (or at least women who love women) raise their libido, and also to help men with their prostate health. And yes, I said to help men as well. Although I'm in a WLW relationship, I fully recognize that men will see these images, too; and that's perfectly fine, because as my earlier blog noted (really, go read it!), there are scientific studies showing that men who have 4.6 to 7 orgasms per week have healthier prostates than those who achieve climax less frequently. As a woman who once dated men (yes, I'm bi), I can say from personal experience that it's difficult for us to match the libido of men, at least over the long term. Even in my 20s, the idea of having regular intercourse with my boyfriend 5, 6, or 7 times per week was completely out of the question. I mean, maybe at the very beginning of a relationship, but long term? Heck no haha. But here's a little secret, men: Most of us women assume you're jerkin' the gherkin in between love-making sessions, and most of us (or at least the women I grew up with) are okay with that, because we'd rather you get off to a picture or video than cheat on us with another woman. Seriously, that last point is a big one, guys: If my fiancé had simply shot his wad into a tissue or a sock, I wouldn't have ended our engagement and my life might have gone a very different route (specifically, the route of a traditional MLW marriage). But cheating is a deal-breaker for me (and for many women), so think twice, men, before sticking your Woody into someone who isn't your partner! Choose the tissue instead... On this topic, have you ever wondered how many times per week people do make love? And yes, there have been actual scientific studies to assess this question (although not surprisingly, most of the data comes from MLW couples, as those are the most common). Answer: The Kinsey Institute, an actual sex research organization, finds that sexually active couples in the 18-29 age range have sex an average of 112 times per year, which is about 2.1 times per week. (Note: This is for sexually active 18-29 year olds; if you're in this age group but don't have a boyfriend or girlfriend, you're probably not having much sex at all.) So even in the youngest and most sexually energetic age group, men are not getting their ideal (from a prostate-health standpoint) 4.6 to 7 orgasms per week entirely from their partners. For sexually active adults in the 30-39 year age range, again according to the Kinsey Institute, love-making frequency decreases to around 86 times per year, or about 1.6 times per week. And finally, the Kinsey Institute reports that individuals in the 40-49 year age range have sex approximately 69 times per year, or about 1.3 times per week. The trend by age is very clear: Downward. Which is why I make these spicy images, because I want to make love with my partner at least once a week. And to do that, I need to keep my libido from cratering. (And yes, I know there are pills and shots to help with these matters, but I prefer natural remedies!) I sincerely hope these images help raise the libido of women (or at least of women who love women), and I also hope it helps some of you men achieve your 4.6 to 7 orgasms per week. Maybe it's just motherly instinct, but even though I'm in love with a woman and hope to spend the rest of my life with her, I still want you guys to take care of yourselves. To recap: Self-love is good. Cheating is bad. Men need to orgasm more than women. Understand there are libido differences between people, so respect and be kind to your partner no matter what type of relationship you're in, whether MLW, WLW, or MLM! And that does it for this edition of the Case for Erotica. 🥰 May kindness and empathy inform your choices in life! 🥰 . . . Other articles on the topic of self-love: https://www.womenshealthnetwork.com/sexual-health/health-benefits-of-masturbation/ https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/articles/24332-masturbation https://www.everydayhealth.com/sexual-health-pictures/orgasms-for-a-better-life-the-surprising-benefits-of-sexual-pleasure.aspx https://www.health.harvard.edu/mens-health/ejaculation_frequency_and_prostate_cancer . From the first reference: "Masturbation is an important and wonderful way of knowing yourself physically and emotionally. Research shows that women who masturbate are more likely to have fulfilling sex lives, better health, better partnerships and marriages, and increased self-confidence. Because of cultural taboos, many women feel that the urge or desire to masturbate is somehow wrong, or the idea of it makes them feel guilty or ashamed." . From the second reference: "Females who masturbate are more likely to have an orgasm during sexual relationships with their partners. Female masturbation can also help provide relief for menstrual cramps. In older people, masturbation may lead to less vaginal dryness and decreased pain during sexual intercourse ." . From the third reference: "Orgasms do more than feel good — they provide a range of health benefits. From boosting your mood and improving sleep to potentially strengthening your pelvic floor and heart health, regular orgasms are great for your overall well-being . Orgasms might also provide some pain relief, especially for migraines and headaches." . From the fourth reference (for men!): "Compared to men who reported 4–7 ejaculations per month across their lifetimes, men who ejaculated 21 or more times a month enjoyed a 31% lower risk of prostate cancer. In all, men who averaged 4.6–7 ejaculations a week were 36% less likely to be diagnosed with prostate cancer before the age of 70 than men who ejaculated less than 2.3 times a week on average."